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Letter to my gay son

Saturday August 9, 2008

Dear son:

I am writing this letter, with the deep love I have, and the deep pain of having learned that one of the roots of your choice for homosexual behavior is the lack of a father figure in your childhood RIGHT, and that makes me greatly responsible for your choice, and it hurts me deeply. How can I get before God and say I’ve failed as a parent? How can I reach him and say here I am not one of my beloved children, who released her hand in a careless and was lost in the darkness ?. There are beloved son!, I write this letter with tears in their eyes, asking God to forgive me for my grave responsibility.

Freely chosen your actions and your lifestyle, and I respect, and your choice does not diminish my love for you. I feel sure that many despise all judge you, and others hate you and you may even curse, but I will always be by your side to protect you and love you. To me you’re still a small child, but now I see more helpless than ever. Every day in my prayers I ask God to protect you and forgive you, and as I also forgive me. I know he loves us both and we will forgive all sins. And not only loves us, but it is his desire to fulfill our destiny of this life which is to act so that then we with him, our father, forever. That is my greatest desire, that at the end of our passage through the world, we’re together, you and beside ours.

Dear son, you know the path you have chosen to live God makes you lose. You know, that all who choose to conduct prohibited by God, we are choosing to miss heaven. And unfortunately we prefer the comfort of our body needs and desires of our subject, no matter these prohibitions, but then we lose everything. I remind you as God forbid the path you have chosen:

1. “Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind, it is abomination” (Leviticus 18:22).

2. “If any man be come together with a male as with a woman, committed an abomination: both of them be killed, his blood shall be upon them” (Leviticus 20:13).

3. “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with men (sodomites), nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God “(1 Cor 6:9-10).

And this is definitely a universal law, whether you believe or not God exists. I also a great period of my life denying their existence, and the sky, and all the eternal verities. It was atheist, atheists recalcitrant and I say to you was with one foot in hell, or rather already with both feet. And if it was at that time, I would say, “Good son, live your life as you want, you target anyone, because I’m by your side, and no one is accountable for what you do with your sexuality, “because at that time I did not care about God bans homosexual relationships. But now, by the mercies of God, I come your way and I’m an escaped from hell, I say with all humility and great authority, from my own experience: do not obey the Laws of God, but rather are wise councils, has serious consequences for our own destiny and the fate of the entire planet.

You know, my son, who was the prayers of your mother did, that the mercy of God touched my heart was hard as a rock, was his prayers that opened a small crack in the shell of a very hard steel in which was shut my eyes will turn to God. And it was through that slit that went across the river from the mercy of God and his miracle there was an upheaval in my being, and then recovered the sight of my soul and I could see again the way to heaven. And the way to heaven, to me, is a very difficult and narrow path, but I see clearly and I’m happy to have seen and chosen. So now with all my love I say you’ve taken the path that leads to the opposite destination.

One of the reasons why it emerged and / or homosexual tendencies flourished in you is because I failed you as a parent. But thank God you’re still alive and your situation is reversed if you wish. This is so true that you reproduce excerpts from scientific studies concerning:

1. Molecular Genetic Study of Sexual Orientation Research Institute, Evanston Northwestern in Chicago in the United States. Its director Alan Sanders, a supporter of the gay movement in the U.S. published results in March 2008 and told reporters: “I do not think there is a gay gene and clarified which other non-genetic factors such as social and environmental influences” (http: / / www.courage-latino.org)

2. Scientific Research: Children’s perceptions of not being accepted as an independent predictor of Homosexuality. Catholic University of Chile.

“The possibility of reparative therapy is real, and although you can not always guarantee the outcome, in the sense of achieving a complete heterosexuality, progress in developing a healthier identity are well known and in many cases, achieved achieved a total success ”

This is a statement on scientific research of the Clinical Psychologist Maria Marcela Ferrer, the full statement of the conclusions I have appended to the end of the letter.

But not a thousand research demonstrating the possibility of change, or even thousands of Bible verses prohibiting homosexual relations will, if you do not want change, if you do not want to return to God.

Do not even know if this letter will touch the shoulder, but my intention is to call your soul, but I tell you something that moved me deeply, the vision of God’s beloved daughter, who tells this: “I saw that from the throne of God flowed like a river, a shining golden fluid with the texture of honey, was the mercy of God, and flowed to all people. A happily bathed in mercy men, women and children rejoiced, and looked happy, but there were some people who stepped aside, would not swim in that river, and what I puzzled and distressed me is that children had also retired and would not bathe. ” Dear son, I do not know if you want to take advantage and swim in the river of God’s mercy, but I know he loves you, and even if you were in the deepest abyss, if you want and you ask, he will help you out; and will also be a escaped from hell.

Today I found an internet video posted on You Tube by a Spanish girl of 25 years under a pseudonym “Kantabra86″ in an “Ask Rajoy” and reads as follows:

“I’m just like anyone live like everyone else, I like you, love you like anybody else, and yet my love for you is not like anyone. My wife as you do not deserve to be called wife, because I am another woman. A child abandoned or without family, does not deserve to be part of ours, because according to you is not a suitable environment. We can not kiss without someone kills us with his words. We can not be family because they allegedly do harm. And who feels our hurt?, Who think of the damage that we are his words? .. Is not this sin to despise the love of two human beings, is it legitimate to want to change the name of our marriage?, Can you imagine the pain you feel when someone discriminates against you?. There are different families, different people … Lords of PP Why change the law on gay marriage?. We also have rights, too, are families …. ”

I say: Blessed are you because you love Kantabra86. And it is true that it is a sin to despise the love of two people. What’s more, the Son of God has taught us that we love so far as to give his life for love, love your family, your friends, those who judge you, who hate you and hurt you, love nature, our planet. And your love is blessed because it springs from God’s part in you, because it comes from God through you, and you can love much more, because your soul can be an inexhaustible source of love if not chained by selfishness. It’s not bad love Phallosan between two people of the same sex, by contrast, is blessed, but how could love the Master to his disciples to the point of giving his life for them?. What is forbidden by God is love between two people of the same sex, but sex between same-sex sex and adultery, and all other forms of sexual immorality that is forbidden and what is considered in the Holy Book as abominable. “Not sin with thy neighbor’s wife, nor will such a union contaminated (Lev. 18:20). “Do not commit the sin of sodomy because it is an abomination” (Leviticus 18:22). “Not sin with cattle or tea stains with it, nor the woman will be mixed with beast, be horrendous evil” (Lv 18:23). “Flee from all impurities, with which all nations are defiled which I banish from your sight” (Lv 18:24). “Which have contaminated land: Whose abominations residenciaré I (ask an account of his conduct), for her to dispose of another (vomiting) with horror to its inhabitants” (Leviticus 18:25).

And I tell Kantabra86, with much love and respect for their decision: If you love your partner, does not want the best for her?, Do not want the sky to her?. If you really love are not sacrifices so that she would get to heaven?. Otherwise, it would be pure selfishness of yours, you meet your body at the expense of the soul of one you love. And if you really love her, and do him no harm.

The enemy of God he managed to confuse, in this generation, the term and the very concept of love, calling it “making love” to sex, and worse, and also calling for prostitution. Love is sublime because it is a manifestation of God, and sexuality is a gift from God, that we should not use it to challenge and offend.

When God created Adam he created Eve with her, and actually created a lot of Adam and Eve many, each with their partner. It created a single pair, which is why it is written: “No one will join carnally with inbreeding, or have to do with it. I am the Lord “(Lev 18:6). And everyone is always created with her partner, her other half, the pair of each is unique in the universe. And the two halves will always be in the way of life, this “wisdom of nature” by a gift from God. Unless your identity is distorted and confused one of the partners want to “choice” in your life or prefer to ignore your heart and your destination.

Many will tell you that hell does not exist, which is an archaic threat of fanatical Christians, or that there is no scientific proof of its existence. I’ve seen no evidence of the existence of hell. What is certain is that those who get there are those who verified “scientifically” its existence. Still others will tell you that God can not create something so terrible for their children. I do not think that God, who is infinitely good, can create something as creepy as hell is terrible. But there!. Regardless of our beliefs and our views or wishes. And who created him, or how was it created?, I do not know, but … There!.

Still others say that hell is only a threat to dominate medieval people. It is true that in the name of God, heaven or hell, have committed great crimes, and the pursuit of wealth and power. But speaking of hell is it a threat?; Do you see a highway when a notice of “Dangerous Curve”, we consider this notice that a threat?. Simply to ignore the warning is killed, and .. and. So also if we ignore the warning of “Hell to the back,” we kill our soul.

Dear son of the great love I have for you, I repeat that you have opened the way back, if you want it. Of course this is a great effort of will, because you control your instincts and your senses. I know that you have not chosen the call of your body towards your same-sex sexuality, but you have chosen to accept the call. We all have many times the call of our stuff into forbidden sexuality, a few times to adultery, others to other forms of sexual immorality. But to accept or not the call is what makes the difference, and that’s what you can do son of God or son of his enemy. And this time it has completely distorted the moral values ​​of humanity, is more difficult to distinguish between good and evil, because evil is completely covered with a veil of acceptance.

The call to sexuality is only in the brain and not in spirit. And as any vice, is alcoholism, smoking, or sexaholic, distort the brain forever, and as a trunk that grows crooked and can not be straightened, so the brain is deformed toward the sexual call forever. Thus the distorted sexuality, be it homosexuality, sexaholic, pedophilia, adultery, bestiality, distort for ever, calls for sexuality that causes the brain. I tell you from experience, that trend is forever. I know you oppose the calling of our body to these forms of sexuality is a very, very heavy load. But you can do it, if you choose, because you’re strong enough, never a burden God gives you, or you go with a load, without giving you the strength to overcome it. And you have the strength to oppose the call of your sexuality distorted.

Many times I heard that oppose the sexual call is troglodyte, unnatural, masochistic, or dyeing medieval prejudices. I say to the contrary, that the domain of your mind and your will on your instincts and your senses makes you more human, more human, and mastering your instincts and your senses on your mind and makes you animal will .

We also say that if you decide to leave homosexuality, you have to fight a constant battle every day, every moment, until the end of your life. Just as anyone who wants to make a vice. And with your strength could only fall back, but if at any moment ask God’s help, he will increase the strength and you win every time you’re in danger of relapse. And to find the true partner with whom God created you, and have the family that corresponds to your destination.

Dear son, I again ask forgiveness for not being a better father, and I repeat that I love you with all the strength of my heart.

May God bless you to find the light you bring to it, your real father, and your heart would flow a lot of love, firstly to yourself, that you want for the most valuable treasure there is: The sky, God Himself. Emerging from your heart so much love to your partner, and also want the best for him and help him out and find God.

Beloved son, I bless you that peace is always in your heart.

Your dad loves you.

(If you think I can help write me at: stansow13@gmail.com)

(Here I play a whole extract of the conclusions and an appendix of Scientific Research Clinical Psychologist Maria Marcela Ferrer)

2. Scientific Research: Children’s perceptions of not being accepted as an independent predictor of Homosexuality. Catholic University of Chile.

Thesis to apply for Master’s Degree in Bioethics at the Faculty of Medicine, Catholic University of Chile: “Children’s perceptions of not being accepted as an independent predictor of Homosexuality,” presented by clinical psychologist Maria Marcela Ferrer (http: / / www.esposibleelcambio.org/_articulo32_enesp.htm)

“V. CONCLUSIONS

After a review of various scientific studies and background regarding the issue of homosexuality, we can conclude first that there is no verifiable elements that demonstrate the existence of a genetic component to the root of this problem.

However, there are many variables involved in the development of homosexual tendencies. Among the most repetitive is a particularly sensitive type of temperament, together with variables that are generated in intimate relationships in the family. Identifying patterns generated by parents with their behavior, observable or not, one can discover the source of conflicts that can lead to homosexual output.

Parents are the primary source of sexual identity for the children. The relationship established with the mother’s father is of great importance for mate choice to be held later. This relationship can be overt or covert, but very difficult to escape the perception of children.

The initial binding, necessary for life, mother and child must be, at some point, interrupted by a consistent and loving father. If that link does not get healthy participation of a third party (the father in this case), the risk of a possible distortion in the identification with one’s own sex can be very large.

A father is devalued by the mother a confounding factor for the children of both sexes. Weak men (emotionally speaking), immature, cold, distant or absent, violent, arrogant and rigidly authoritarian parents are among those which recur in the personal stories of homosexuals.

The parent is not home, through divorce or death, is not necessarily producing problems in sexual identification, provided that the mother retains a sense of respect or desire for the male, represented in his image.

The child learns to feel solidarity with that feeling and assume as their own, to seek their future in a shape complementarity of the opposite sex. In this sense, correctly identified with the mother.

The man feels entitled to the admiration and the value that gives the mother the image of the father as representative of the male gender, and in this sense, is identified with the father to find a mate in the opposite sex.

Even though there may be various positions in this regard, according to the interests or values ​​of each, is an inescapable fact that the role of parent may be a factor in sexual selection of children.

For its part, the school years are a time for many children of great suffering for failing to join the course or groups are discriminated against because clearly jokes and nicknames that leave deep scars. This is exacerbated by being marginalized in their peer group in general, for its lack of athletic skills and his lack of social skills.

In this sense, it is important to educate teachers and parents with the goal of detecting these difficulties as soon as possible to avoid labels, whether self-imposed by the child, or that put their peers.

Consider the homosexual person as having a different sexuality than the male and female, or a “third sex” is not only a distant view of nature but also, far from dignifying condemns gay people to live an incomplete life because, although they have all the civil rights of a family, including adoption, a homosexual couple can never live a full sexuality, on the fundamental fact of the impossibility of giving them a real complementarity between physical and psychological. In fact, his highest aspiration is to mimic as closely as possible the traditional family, where man and woman marry and have children, if possible, own, which is an irrefutable evidence that their nature is what drives them to live not in a natural and biologically barren company, but to form a fruitful family, made it materially impossible in a plane of homosexuality. This would be the ultimate desire of gay groups, as they express themselves as they struggle for legal recognition of their unions as marriages, including the power to adopt children here.

It is curious that there are groups of gay people who grieved so when therapists from around the world are trying to help people with this orientation, seeking help to reverse the situation, citing that this would provoke a greater harm and nobody should intervene in this sense, since theirs is a happy condition of life. It is also strange to think that if this is a condition of life so happy, I worry about the possibility of therapies that are in place also appear as long and painful as it is obvious that if every gay person was so happy, nobody go to therapy and, therefore, would not have to worry about. At the same time, they also say that the therapies given false hope and, therefore, are wrong. I wonder if being gay is so good, why therapies say they false hopes? ¿False hopes of what?

In the world today, it boasts great tolerance and respect for minorities. However, this tolerance does not extend to people with sexual identity problems who want to change. It is a duty to investigate the basis of this condition and the real possibilities of providing support to the effect of reversing the homosexual tendency for those who so desire. Moreover, it is well known that any psychological therapy should be voluntary and be motivation for you to be interested.

The possibility of a reparative therapy is real, and although you can not always guarantee the result, in the sense of achieving a complete heterosexuality, progress in developing a healthier identity are well known and in many cases, fails to reach a total success.

Consider homosexuality as a psychological symptom starting in early childhood implies that it is possible to prevent the development of homosexual tendencies, if those features are found significant in the early years and take appropriate measures to enable the child to develop sexual identity according to its nature.

Taking the human being holistically, it is impossible to separate the aspects of sexuality from other personal characteristics. Consider that man has no chance of development is, however, think in terms of deterministic and reductionist.

Psychologists and psychiatrists have an ethical duty to seriously investigate this issue, so that they can develop therapies and discover the best ways to avoid developing these disorders in children.

Meanwhile, parents should be informed of the importance of certain factors necessary for the development of a good identity and especially the fundamental role of the father, involved and committed to raising their children, and the importance of a mother that allows the individuation of children. Indeed, as in many other aspects of medicine and psychology, prevention is a good practice to be a more effective and with a much lower cost, both emotionally and economically. But for well-targeted policies may exist from the point of view of prevention, there must be a belief in academic, medical and political desirability of the human being develops sexual orientation according to its nature

This research shows that the propaganda spread by the gay lobby has had no base. We should stop telling young people, and others who struggle with homosexuality, to stop doing so and assume that condition as normal. Instead, we should say, “If you want to change, it is possible, and many others have been.”

VIII. ANNEX

Hello, good afternoon dear diary

I want to share here with you my understanding of homosexuality that I understand better each day. For me homosexuality is a defense mechanism that acts diverting the mind of the individual heterosexuality / a on the people of the same sex to try to get through the identification of sex drive male / female who is not able to feel through a normal emotional identification from wounds received in the first years of life for the people of the same sex significant (parents, brothers / sisters, uncles / as, cousins ​​/ as …).

I think the healing of homosexuality is to identify homo-emotional wounds that prevent the person identified in a natural and healthy to the people of the same sex, to understand why these injuries occurred to be able to forgive those who caused (not blaming anyone) and for me the most important thing to realize that responsibility has been dis-identify with the people of the same sex is the same individual who must realize this and change their attitude to re-identify with people of their sex and overcome the psychological barrier that prevents you from connecting emotionally in a healthy way with people leaving her sex to deviate sexual drive and returning to its normal heterosexuality.

I also believe that another cause of the deviation from heterosexuality to people of the same sex is that when it’s boy / aa puberty does not feel emotionally capable of sexual relations with persons of the opposite sex has been excluded as emotionally identification with the boys / as and therefore does not look like a boy / a capable and safe / a being with a girl if a guy and a guy if a girl. Furthermore, if we add that the individual is still stuck in the training phase of their identity male / female and what you’re looking to identify with people of their sex is easy to understand why sex drive is diverted to normal heterosexual persons of the same sex.

One last idea that I find curious and would like to discuss today is the concept of “homophobia.” Homophobia means the irrational fear and hatred toward homosexual persons. Well, if you stop to analyze literally two words that make up “homophobia” (homo: likeness or sameness, and phobia: an unreasonable fear) obtains the definition of this word is literally irrational fear of same-sex (equal or similar) which is present in all people with homosexual tendencies and it is curious contradiction of this term as it is widely used by proponents of the gay movement to cross out of intolerant people who are opposed to the idea that homosexuality is innate and healthy when doing an analysis of the word homophobes are gay people (who are gay but not gay but we’re changing our “homophobia” for normal vision of the people of the same sex). “